What men want to know..

So I received this email from a man today on plentyoffish.com...

Hey there! By the way I'm in Orlando right now but will be moving to Tampa area. I need your opinion on something. The reason I need your opinion is because you are one of the few attractive women I have found on here who I feel can give me an honest opinion without being bias. I say this because you don't know me and I don't know you so, there is nothing to hide or gain. Right?

Okay! So, does it matter what kind of vehicle a guy drives? If a guy drives an expensive sports car is it more attractive than say a guy who is driving something very common than most men have? A guy who lives in a house or an apartment and both are very clean of course? Also what body type on a man is more attractive to you physically. Muscular? athletic? average? or thin? I don't think any women would prefer an overweight man so, it's not on the list and if you do prefer a larger man my apologies to you.

Alright! This question is probably on every guy's mind even if he knows not to ask but for my personal knowledge I will ask it with decency of course. Do women in your opinion prefer a man who is well endowed or average? Also in your opinion does the length of time in the bedroom matter more than what is actually performed in that length of time? Sorry if these last few questions offended you or embarrassed you as it's not my intention to be rude in my email to you only to know more about women and their minds.

It may seem like some very personal questions but I assure you they are just general and curious questions that I would like answered by a women herself and not some "How to pick up chicks in 10 days" article written by some clever entrepreneur trying to take advantage of the general male population. Hopefully you understand and realize by this part of my email that I'm sincere and not some perverted guy looking for a cheap thrill.

I have done well in the dating field and have dated some very attractive women and some of them have been featured in major publications that I cannot mention due to privacy acts. Each women that I ask these questions to have varied answers and so it helps me as a current single man to know what women are truly wanting when seeking a partner. Relationships would be so much more sincere if us men and women just communicated better.

Thank You sincerely and I look forward to your response.

Ashton-


Here's my response...

Hey Ashton!

Okay here's as honest as I can get...I think.

About the vehicle: I does matter to an extent. The men I've dated that drive expensive sports cars are usually douche bags with something to prove because either a) they're unattractive and this is the only way a woman will look at them b) their personality blows monkey balls...ie self absorbed pricks that think they're God's gift to women c) both. If a man pulls up in an expensive sports car I usually know it's going to be a one date kind of thing (same with men who have cats...it's weird). However, a man pulling up in a beater is no better. With the world we live in today why on earth would a woman who has a lot to offer a man date someone that can't even afford a decent car? Yeah personality, looks, chemistry and all the other bullsh*tis important but if a man can't afford a decent car there's no way he's going to be able to provide the lifestyle I want.

Home: A clean home in a safe neighborhood is important. I don't care if it's a house, condo or apartment. Yes, I like the idea of a man owning his own home and having that sort of stability but I also like the idea of "us" being able to pick up and move without the headaches of selling, renting or up keep while we're gone. Of course when I first start dating a man and he shows me his place it does affect my opinion...that's just life.

Body: I love a hot body...who doesn't. But it's not a requirement. Although when I date a man with a nicer physique it motivates me to stay in better shape and that's a win/win for everyone involved. ;P I absolutely do not date skinny men. I'm just not attractive to a thin man...never have been never will be. I used to be a chubby chaser but I myself was a bit chubbier at the time (it took me a while to break that cycle once I wasn't a fat kid anymore...but I think I'm over it). Average men are okay as long as they aren't couch potatoes...which is often the case. I like to get out and do things and find that fit men are usually far more active then their not so in shape counterparts. Note I say I like fit men with nice bodies...not bodybuilders or gym rats. I cannot stand a man who is obsessed with his physical appearance and have found the men I have dated that look like that are ****ing crazy pants.

So expensive sports cars, cats and greek god bodies are all signs (to me of course) that a man is a bit insane.

Okay on to the penis. Size does matter to an extent. I do not want a little penis. Average is good as long as it isn't skinny (skinny is the absolute worse!). Well endowed is great (as long as it isn't too big...yes there is such thing). Honestly I have been with average men who were better lovers then men with the huge**** It's all about what they can do...what emotional level we're on...I mean relationship sex with an average man is always going to beat hookup sex with Mr. Huge****

Amount of sex: Quality beats quantity any day of the week. If my lover knows how to get me off and he can do it quick then what the hell do I care if it took 10 minutes or an hour I got my cookie. I do hate when a man gets off first and calls it a day. That does not fly in my bedroom. There are times when I want to make love to my partner and really connect...that usually takes longer in the sack. It really does depend on the person, the relationship, the day I'm having, etc.

I do feel it's incredibly important to note that oral sex is a deal breaker for me. If the man I'm sleeping with isn't good at oral sex or isn't willing to learn I can't date him....period. I have girl friends that wont let their men go down on them (that's their own insane choice) but for me it a major part of the physical side of the relationship.

I recently dated a man that drives a new bmw, owns three homes, took me on vaycay, had a killer body, wasn't in a hurry to start a family, had a nice penis...but I had to get out of the relationship because he would not go down on me. He did like three times the entire time we dated. His excuse was he had a bad experience once that scared him. I knew at that point he was a selfish prick that didn't give a sh*tabout my needs. He literally hit every check on my list except that...I dealt with it for a bit but it ate away (no pun intended) at me. Everything wrong with him came back to that.

Okay well I'm not sure if this is going to help you at all. Feel free to ask more that was kind of fun.

Mind answering a few questions for me???

-What's the first thing you notice about a woman who walks into a room?
-What body type do you find most attractive? Do you date women of other body types?
-Face or body...which is more important?
-How long should a woman wait before she has sex with a man? Be honest...break it down for me...if she sleeps with a guy on the second date you think this...waits a couple weeks you think this...waits over a month you think this...I'm truly interested in hearing how this works?
-Do you think marriage is realistic in the 21st century?